Members that don't understand Church policy, doctrine, or official statements need to follow the direction given by those that hold the keys, and then seek understanding.
“If any man will do His will, he shall know of the doctrine, whether it be of God, or whether I speak of myself” (John 7:17).
As we have faith in and act on God’s plan, organization, and commandments, we will learn the doctrine (the eternal truths and reasons-- the “why”).
Faith has always preceded the miracle, and sometimes God requires us to listen and obey before understanding is given. And that understanding may take a long time-- maybe even until after this life.
When your young child darts into the street as a car approaches and you yell "stop", I'm sure the last response you want to hear is "give me three compelling arguments why I need stop and I’ll review these reasons, develop my own standing on the issue, and let you know soon if I decide to obey your request."
Failing to follow council from a Church leader is metaphorically equivalent to a child running in front of a car. It would be ignorant to think other wise. The spiritual danger it causes can be seen by many groups in the scriptures: Lamen and Lemuel, the Lamenites, the Gadianton Robbers, the third of the hosts of heaven that revolted, Satan, etc.
(This is not good company to be in)
There is nothing more upsetting than apostasy. There is no lonelier road than dissension.
"Behold, ere he is aware, he is left unto himself, to kick against the pricks, to persecute the saints, and to fight against God" (D&C 121:38)
During these times of challenging issues such as the church’s response to The Boy Scouts of America’s policy changes regarding homosexuality and the supreme court’s ruling on the “right” to marry, please remember that your loyalty is to God first. Take time to read the Church’s official statements and doctrine. Review them in prayer asking for understanding, having a pre-set determination to follow God’s direction as given through proper Priesthood keys. Give it time. Too often these tough issues become so emotionally charged that we block our own ability to receive revelation through pondering and through healthy counseling with others.
True peace comes from following Christ, even when times are tough.
